By Frank Golden
Despite its growing popularity, I’ve noticed that many of our Intended Parents have questions about egg donation, and might even be confused by the process. I’m here to simplify it for you the best I can. When I was undergoing the egg donation process, I felt overwhelmed and, at times, frustrated by the ample amount of information, egg donor profiles, processes, everything that makes up a egg donation. As an agency owner and as a fellow Intended Parent, I feel that it is my responsibility to support other Intended Parents going through this process. I want to demystify the egg donation process and hopefully help other Intended Parents who are currently considering egg donation.
Primarily, every Intended Parent should know that, much like surrogates, egg donors must meet a certain list of requirements. Typically, egg donors are between the ages of 21-32; I’ve begun to notice, however, that many clinics and agencies cap out at age 28. Egg donors need to have a healthy BMI which typically means under 30. They must also have excellent reproductive health, must pass a psychological evaluation, and must be willing to take the necessary injectable medication. In egg donation, there is an emphasis on quantity and quality; the goal is to retrieve the highest quantity of quality eggs.
Second journeys, the process of adding to your family, is exciting. There is nothing better than giving your child a sibling to love. In this episode of Golden Gossip, Frank discusses second journeys in detail. He shares information about managing expectations, journey timelines, and expresses the importance of showing second-time Intended Parents the same quality care as their first journey.
When Adam and I first started this agency, we didn’t expect to see much returning business. Surrogacy Journeys, for many, are once in a lifetime experiences. The financial component of Surrogacy Journeys might also deter Intended Parents from embarking on a second journey. What we’ve come to realize is that many of our Intended Parents, about 20-30% of them, are interested in undergoing a second journey. We treat second-time Intended Parents the same way we treat Intended Parents entering our program for the first time. Intended Parents can expect the same personal care, access to information, and seamless experience.
Primarily, before beginning a second journey, Intended Parents should discuss and formulate their family goals. Some important questions to ask might be: How far apart in age do you want your children to be; Do you want to use the same Surrogate for your second journey; Do you have remaining embryos or will you have to create more; Are you prepared to take care of an infant while being immersed in another journey? Once Intended Parents have answered these questions, and once they’ve made sure they have the financial resources to support another journey, it’s time to get excited about the idea of adding to or completing their family.
In this expanding industry, it’s getting more difficult to select a Surrogacy Agency that meets all the needs of Intended Parents. In this episode of Golden Gossip, Frank discusses his agency, Golden Surrogacy, and shares its standard of providing each Intended Parent and Surrogate with an excellent experience. Frank discusses Surrogate requirements, shares his thoughts on the importance of customer service, and explains how he instills these crucial values in his team.
By Frank Golden
It gets more and more challenging running a surrogacy agency. I love my job. I love what I do, but I can’t deny that the industry is changing. More surrogacy agencies are opening, more Intended Parents are enrolling, and more women are attempting to be surrogates. It’s exciting, but it’s also a bit scary; as the demand for surrogates increase, many agencies are reducing their standards to accommodate the influx of Intended Parents. As an agency owner and as an Intended Parent, I go out of my way to ensure that Golden Surrogacy continues to maintain the highest of standards; I’m proud to say that we’ve been successful.
As other agencies lower their standards by adjusting their surrogate requirements, Golden Surrogacy has developed stricter requirements for our surrogate candidates. It seems counter-productive to some – we are limiting the amount of surrogates we onboard just as the industry is really taking off – but we’re doing it for good reason: we care. Our team at Golden Surrogacy continues to educate ourselves on reproductive health and the factors that can affect a healthy pregnancy and delivery. We take this information seriously and as a result, have adjusted our surrogate requirements to further ensure a healthy, positive experience for everyone involved.
By Frank Golden
I’ve been a surrogacy agency owner for the last several years of my life. Prior to that, I was an Intended Parent anxiously awaiting the arrival of our children. I remember the anxiety I felt when I first met our Surrogate. I remember quickly learning to love our Surrogate. And I remember quickly learning to fully trust our Surrogate to take care of our baby while it was growing and waiting for its arrival into the world. Next to parenthood, it’s the most challenging thing I’ve ever had to do. Trusting anyone with your children is scary. Trusting a new addition to your life is frightening.
Going into our first surrogacy journey, I felt a sense of control. As a gay man, making the choice to start a family feels like you’re taking control of your life and making dreams come true for yourself. And in a sense, that’s completely accurate. During the initial phases of a surrogacy journey, Intended Parents are in control. We choose our agency, we set our expectations, we commit to the financial obligations. It wasn’t until we were matched that everything shifted. Once our Surrogate was involved, that sense of control was transferred to our Surrogate. It was up to her to maintain a healthy diet, to attend appointments, to avoid anything that might harm our baby. Once our Surrogate was pregnant, she was in control. We had no choice but to relinquish that control over to her.
Surrogates take on a huge responsibility when entering a Surrogacy Journey. In this episode of Golden Gossip, Frank discusses Surrogates role in the process and how they can include their Intended Parents throughout the entire journey. He shares ideas that Surrogates can use to help reassure their Intended Parents and also shares personal stories about his own surrogates.
By Frank Golden
Surrogacy journeys are exciting. They embody hope, joy, and in many cases, pride. They can also embody anxiety and a sense of uncertainty. For many Intended Parents, their anxiety doesn’t involve the surrogacy agreement, legal documents, or building a relationship with their surrogate. For many Intended Parents, their biggest source of anxiety is the pregnancy itself. We’ve noticed that, in particular, many of our gay Intended Parents aren’t fully aware of what pregnancy entails and what each stage looks like. While we aren’t gynecologists or medical professionals, we do have an understanding of pregnancy and what it entails. In this blog, we are going to give a general explanation of “What to Expect when Your Surrogate is Expecting.” The surrogacy process is multi-layered and complex as it is. If we can remove some anxiety by educating our Intended Parents on pregnancy, then we’ve done our job as a surrogacy agency, and I’ve done my job as a former Intended Parent.
Pregnancy is complex, and it can be stressful for Intended Parents to process it all. In this episode of Golden Gossip, Frank discusses pregnancy and what to expect when a surrogate is expecting. He uses his own experience as a surrogacy agency own to address each trimester, possible complications, and important milestones throughout a typical pregnancy.