Where to Start As A Surrogate

June 16, 2023 by Frank Golden

Being a Surrogate is more than bringing a baby into the world and creating a family for others. Surrogacy is a journey filled with hope, miracles, challenges, and incredible connections. The individuals who decide to embark on these journeys as Surrogates are some of the most selfless and remarkable women you will ever meet.

If you are considering joining this wonderful community, the first step is not applying. I know this might come as a shock, but there is an essential first step before the application process begins. As a surrogacy agency director, I would like to share with you the essential first step you need to take on your surrogacy journey as a Surrogate. Following this step will help you start your journey on the right foot. So, fasten your seatbelts and get ready to learn where this beautiful journey truly begins. If you are considering becoming a Surrogate, let me share a secret with you: the key to success lies in an unlikely place—research.

Yes, you read that right. Research is the essential first step for anyone looking to become a Surrogate. You might be surprised to hear this from an agency director like me. Rather than urging you to sign up with Golden Surrogacy right away (here is the link for that once you are done with this blog: apply here), I believe it is vital for prospective Surrogates to have a comprehensive understanding of what lies ahead.

Do I Qualify?

Start by finding out if you meet the qualifications. Take a look at the requirements outlined in my previous segment on Surrogate criteria or visit our website for an overview of the baseline requirements for beginning a surrogacy journey.

Woman in white shirt looking at Surrogate requirements on her laptop.

Do I Have the Support of my Significant Other?

Additionally, if you have a significant other, it is crucial to have open and honest conversations about your decision to become a Surrogate. Ensure that they are fully on board and understand the commitment involved for both you and your family unit.

Interested in being a Surrogate?

What Else is Involved?

Moving forward, it is essential to grasp the various components of the surrogacy journey. This includes understanding the medication aspect, the Intended Parents’ role, and the fertility clinic process.

For example, let’s discuss medications. As a Surrogate, achieving pregnancy often involves the use of injectable medications. You should educate yourself about the purpose of these medications, potential side effects, and how your body will respond. It may even be a good idea to consult with a medical professional to discuss any concerns or risks you might have.

In terms of the Intended Parents, consider the kind of relationship you would like to have with them. Will you have ongoing contact? Will they be local or remote? These are crucial questions that will shape your journey, and having a clear understanding of your preferences will help you build a strong foundation.

What are Surrogate requirements?

Join an Online Support Group

Now, you might be wondering how to conduct all this research effectively. One valuable resource is online support groups. There are groups you can join to connect with other Surrogates and gain insights from their journeys. Speaking with former and current Surrogates will provide you with diverse perspectives, as every surrogacy journey is unique.

Do not limit your conversations to Surrogates alone, either. Reach out to Intended Parents as well. Engaging with them will provide you with an even broader understanding of the process from their perspective. Doing this will help you set realistic expectations and build strong relationships.

Join a surrogacy support group that is full of women like you.

Remember, research is key! Take the time to gather information from multiple sources and gain a comprehensive understanding of surrogacy. This will empower you to make informed decisions and ensure a smooth and fulfilling journey. As you embark on the path of surrogacy with the knowledge gained through research, you will not only form incredible bonds, but also cherish every step along the way. Whether you are looking to become an Intended Parent or a Surrogate, take my advice as a former Intended Parent—there is truly nothing like it. The experiences you will have and the relationships you will form are life-changing.